Today, more so than at any other time in history, people are claiming to not have ‘control’ over their lives. The pedophile claims ‘I just cannot help myself’. The drug addict says, ‘what I tried once, has got me in it’s grip’. The liar always has a good reason to lie and hey, afterall, it is only a little white lie. The murderer screams, ‘he drove me to it!’. The courts are full of lawyers that have devised countless loopholes to allow the ‘criminal’ or the ‘victim’ to pass the buck and shrug responsibility. Why even many of today’s so-called ‘mental health experts’ are defending a person’s inability to express any form of self-control when they have been ‘victimized’ in this society. A bad childhood or a traumatic event in one’s life can now be the basis of excuse or reason for inappropriate or sinful behavior. Instead of reacting with outrage, we are slowly being programmed to react with ’empathy’ or ‘pity’ for the offender, allowing them the luxury of indulging in their self-pity and destructive behaviors. And though the Christian should know better, they too, are reaching out for commisseration from their brethren concerning their lack of self-control. What does the Bible tell us concerning such ‘victimized’ individuals?
1 John 4:1-6 tells us that there are many who claim God but know not God. Overcoming the world will be the fruit of a Christian who truly knows God. This does not happen all at once, but eventually, the victimization will be wiped out of a Christian life when the Christian understands that they are not ‘victims’ but instead they are ‘victors’. Romans 8 says that we have the Holy Spirit as our intercessor and He will plead our case before God. Our lawyer (the Holy Spirit) does not give us reason or cause to feel helpless or sorry for ourselves .. Instead, it is pleaded on our behalf, that we are made righteous and we are justified before God Himself. We have been acquitted. Therefore, self-pity cannot live in the same habitat with righteousness or justification. We cannot have it both ways. We either acknowledge our responsibility or we blame others. Acknowledging responsibility for our lives and our behavior will result in forgiveness and restitution. Blaming others will result in a self-indulgent pity that will distort our perception of reality and lead eventually into personality disorder. This leads to having an excuse or ‘written proof’ from the medical association that one is suffering and is allowed to continue in their offensive behaviors. I mean, afterall, they cannot help themselves can they? Poor thing.
The Bible tells us how to act. How to think. How to react. How to behave. And nowhere, is there room for excuses to act, think, react, or behave otherwise than what God has instructed. Yes, we all fall short. But, grace does much more abound! Self-pity is a trap of the devil himself. It is a subtil and slow regressive growth in human nature and requires our focus to remain on the problem instead of the solution. Self-pity can feel good and righteous in and of itself. But the truth is that we remain more focused on ‘self’ rather than keep our focus on Jesus Christ, who has overcome every obstacle and has given us the victory and left us without an excuse to become a ‘victim of society’.