He was a friendly person who loved to sing. In a baritone voice he could hold us spell-bound when he sang at Christmas or Easter cantatas. He volunteered to lead the church choir and there was not one member who did not enjoy and come away from choir practices with a joyful heart and a hearty laugh. One night he returned home from choir practice, and retired to their spare guest room instead of to their bedroom as his wife had retired earlier to bed. He wanted to listen to just one more song, did not want to disturb her, and had his earphones on when he was called to glory that night.
In shock she called us early that morning – he was no more she cried buckets of tears. Regrets were plentiful, she could have given him so much more, she found that from something she had nothing of him now. When he was alive, she scolded, harassed and fussed him about the nitty grittys of life. He was very patient and accepted all she gave to him. She was a sour puss in short and he an affable happy go-lucky guy. Too late, she found, she had run out of time and even now after more than thirty years she pines for him.
They were our family friends and we sometimes wondered how opposites could so attract each other. That is still a mystery.
The cold hard lesson learnt was clear for all who knew them – give of your best in life to your loved one. We need give nothing more in death to the loved one, for anything given at and after death is but a show and salve for the giver and does not benefit the loved one who is in a better place in glory. That changed all our perspectives in relationships towards loved ones. Treasure them while they are alive, warts and all. Give even when it seems difficult for there comes a time when it will be too late at the funeral and after , and it could be shockingly sooner than later.
Yes, as we give of our best to our Master, let us in that include our giving of our best to our living loved ones. It will be too late when they are gone.
How are you doing with spouse, parent, child, brother, sister and in-laws? Anything to change? Do not live in perpetual regret after they move on to eternity.You have been well advised.
Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children 2and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
3But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. 4Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. 5For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a man is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.a 6Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7Therefore do not be partners with them.
8For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9(for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10and find out what pleases the Lord. 11Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. 13But everything exposed by the light becomes visible, 14for it is light that makes everything visible. This is why it is said:
“Wake up, O sleeper,
rise from the dead,
and Christ will shine on you.”
15Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. 18Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. 19Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord, 20always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.
21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Wives and Husbands
22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansingb her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”c 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
A word to the wise is sufficient. May we be guided by the Word of God in our living and relationships. No regrets.
This series shares glimpses in just a few paragraphs on interesting characters I have met along life’s journey of over 65 years and who touched my life. Some bring glory to God and others to themselves.