Never Use Force. Just Get a Bigger Hammer!

Recently I observed a woman trying to access a website without success. Frustrated because the site would not open, she pounded repeatedly on the “enter” key to no success. I imagine most of us have reached this level of frustration at times, only to have our efforts fail.

This reminded me of an adage I learned as a youth: “Never use force, just get a bigger hammer.” As I’ve aged (matured), I’ve learned that this is some of the worst guidance I’ve ever received.

My “bigger hammer” was not a physical tool, but all too frequently anger and even rage. My tool box was chock full of tools I could use  when I felt I have been wronged in some manner. I became extremely adept at using these tools to  strike out, strike back or strike down.

Very recently I encountered a situation that tempted me to reach into that destructive tool box. I felt betrayed by hypocrisy and deceit by friends or just plain failure to adequately communicate. I found myself reaching for that “bigger hammer.” It would have been very easy for me to bring division and dissension to a very large group. Yes, the temptation was powerful.

As any handyman knows, it’s not having the biggest tool, but the right tool to get something done right.  So the  first tool I selected was prayer. Instead of yielding the hammer, I swallowed my pride and squelched my anger and hurt. I looked at the bigger picture and the impact things could have on others. I opted for “turning the other cheek.” I also recognized that these situations were in many ways of my own doing.

This was not an easy decision. It will result in some major changes in my life. I changes the ways in which I will interact with people and my willingness to trust. It will alter how I express (agape) love.

What it will not alter is my devotion to fulfilling the Great Commission.

Shalom, Art

Alive in the Word

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About aliveintheword

Missouri, USA Married to Marty, 45 years 2 sons (with 2 daughers-in-law) and 2 granddaughters Life dedicated to serving Jesus Christ and delivering the Good News
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3 Responses to Never Use Force. Just Get a Bigger Hammer!

  1. writinggomer says:

    This is a great post! Thank you for the reminder, I need these. 🙂 This post should be read with
    Nuggets – You can’t, You can – Know the difference!, by ptl2010….they go together very well.
    God bless

  2. ptl2010 says:

    Art, thank you for sharing and the reminder that we need to let the Spirit work in us for as children of God we can have that inner strength which comes from Him to overcome self that wants out because of pride. So glad you shared your testimony. Praying that you and all of us will continue in His Spirit in His strength to resist the impulsive human reaction of taking out from our toolbox which may cause damage untold to ourselves and others. May He help us instead to reach humbly for His tools of love, joy, peace, longsuffering,..which will bring healing to ourselves and others in dfficult relationship communications. May He be praised for all that He is doing in our lives. May our be prayer “Lord help me” at all times.

  3. April says:

    Excellent post! Christmas blessings! April

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