Most of us have been taught, mostly by example; that crying is a sign of weekness, unmanliness. “Big boys don’t cry. Brush yourself off and get back in. there”. Therapists would disagree with that notion. We heal through the processes of revealing the hurt openly.
One of the greatest lessons taught by Jesus was that even God who can release, change and deal with pain for situations that He has long known about, is that He must show His pain for our situations
The scripture says; “When Jesus saw her weeping (Mary), and the jews who had come along with her also weeping, He was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. “Where have you laid him?” He asked. “Come see, Lord, ” they replied. Jesus wept. Jesus knew that Lazarus would die. He knew that the following miracle of bringing him back to life would impact his ministry and declare him as the only access to God.
The Creator not only gave us the symbol of his care, he showed his face by coming to us in the form of Jesus. And we can see him cry.
So much He cares that he sent the Holy Spirit to comfort, give us wisdom. and guide us. We do not need to search for God, He resides in us. Phillip Yancey says; ” To search of the Spirit is like hunting for your eyeglasses while you are wearing them”.
I have been prompted many times in recent years to “let it out”. I write a story; barely able to read it aloud for the emotion that it evokes. In part, I would attribute this tenderness to getting old; when we have no longer hold to an image of misleading strength and control to maintain. This may be true. I believe however, if we are truly listening to the Spirit he is saying; I am the humanity in you that requires you to greive as a sign that you get Jesus’ message. I’m telling you that if you hold back and restrain yourself you not only set a poor example in your cloaked humanity, but you impede the restoration process that takes you out of the game.
We have work to do in Him. We must bring about readiness by all means necessary.