Free from the Stronghold of Divorce
Written by Christian author, Pola Muzyka.
Divorce never stands alone as a stronghold. It is propped up by nagging, abuse, discord, deception, control, division, hate, abandonment, lust, adultery, and many other strongholds. Divorce is the world’s answer to sin within a marriage.
But God meant marriage for good right from the beginning. Even after the fall from grace, God, in his ultimate grace, still allowed mankind the opportunity to propagate and prosper on the earth. Of course this prosperity and multiplication came with the consequences of eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.
Hard work and pain in childbirth were added to his first creations. In other words, God, in his goodness, grace, and mercy, still allowed a blessing when he punished the sin of Adam and Eve’s betrayal. Today we know that blessings and pain walk hand in hand in our earthly bodies as we move forward in discovering the grace, goodness, and mercy of our Lord.
The sins that were released with the disobedience of the fall brought demons of immorality. If invited into a marriage these demons will destroy it. When vows before God are taken, the two become one flesh. Immorality or any other sins allowed to enter the marriage can cause the whole body to suffer.
The pain is so great at times, that the offender or offended believes the only release can be in divorce. Marriage is a covenant with God. Divorce destroys what God has put together. This means that without true repentance and sincere forgiveness after a divorce, retribution will never be had and any future marriage will carry on the sin. The pain will continue in one way or another.
That”s why second marriages after a divorce have a higher and quicker divorce rate. Since in the first marriage, the two became one flesh, it is like ripping a tree in half and trying to graft a thorny vine or another type of vegetation to the tree. It never works. The tree must first be completely repaired and healed if the grafting is to take place.
Marriage is a covenant with God.
5 Biblical tips to overcome divorce:
1. If you are not divorced yet, do all you can to heal the marriage.\
1 Corinthians 7:12-14 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
2. If you are Biblically divorced, repent of any residual animosity. Forgive before you decide to remarry.
Matthew 19:9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.
3. If you are the offender, repent and move forward to repair the marriage. If it’s too late and divorce has taken place, repent and ask God for healing and understanding before you attempt to remarry.
Malachi 2:16 For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce and marital separation and him who covers his garment [his wife] with violence. Therefore keep a watch upon your spirit [that it may be controlled by My Spirit], that you deal not treacherously and faithlessly [with your marriage mate].
Proverbs 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop [on the flat oriental roof, exposed to all kinds of weather] than in a house shared with a nagging, quarrelsome, and faultfinding woman.
4. If you are still married, get closer to God as a couple. Remember you are not two but one flesh. If you had a wound on your leg, you would go to a doctor, or dress the wound and put ointment on it to heal. So, apply this with your other half as well.
Malachi 2:15 And did not God make [you and your wife] one [flesh]? Did not One make you and preserve your spirit alive? And why [did God make you two] one? Because He sought a godly offspring [from your union]. Therefore take heed to yourselves, and let no one deal treacherously and be faithless to the wife of his youth.
Matthew 19:6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder (separate).
Proverbs 5:18 Let your fountain [of human life] be blessed [with the rewards of fidelity], and rejoice in the wife of your youth.
5. Love. Love covers a multitude of sins and can eventually repairs all wounds.
1 Corinthians 13:4-13 Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
1 John 4:8 He who does not love has not become acquainted with God [does not and never did know Him], for God is love.