Free from the Stronghold of Regret
Written by Christian author, Pola Muzyka.
The last thing we want when we come to the end of our natural lives is regret. We want to feel as though our lives have been full–that what we leave behind will make a positive difference in the world. We didn’t just take up space.
Regret takes hold when we deliberately cause pain in some way or when we feel we have failed by doing or not doing something. Each time we make a mistake we regret what just happened and don’t want to repeat it. If we make the same mistake over again a change is needed. But what change? It could get worst.
Regret finds its way into every area of our lives. However, unless we make the right changes in our lives, we are doomed to repeat mistakes and failures. Unless the wisdom we gain as we age comes from God we can’t discern or comprehend the mistake or failure. We can’t see the future. We can only learn from the past.
There are many reasons why an individual, a nation, group, or society repeats mistakes. Stubbornness, embarrassment, revenge, indignation, sloth, rebellion, defiance, selfishness, negligence or just plain foolishness can be a stronghold in our lives that exacerbate the mistake or failure.
If we’re arrogant enough to push regret out after know we have done something against God’s will, regret will eventually find its way into our lives or the lives of others on our behalf. “I regret so and so did such and such and I couldn’t stop it” will be echoed back to us.
Regret does not have to take hold in our lives. We can free ourselves from regret by taking a step toward godly wisdom. With godly wisdom we do the best we are allowed to do given the constraints of our position or environment. No regrets.
Moving forward to gain the victory over defeat and regret will give us the full life we hope for and the assurance that what we leave behind is good.
Arm yourself with the Word.
5 Biblical tips to overcoming regret:
1. Make whatever godly change is necessary to gain victory. Don’t repeat mistakes.
1 Corinthians 10:11 These are all warning markers—danger!—in our history books, written down so that we don’t repeat their mistakes. Our positions in the story are parallel—they at the beginning, we at the end—and we are just as capable of messing it up as they were. Don’t be so naive and self-confident. You’re not exempt. You could fall flat on your face as easily as anyone else. Forget about self-confidence; it’s useless. Cultivate God-confidence.
2. Do your research. Don’t follow vain or worldly imaginings or false teachers. Follow Christ and have no regrets.
1 Corinthians 11:1 PATTERN YOURSELVES after me [follow my example], as I imitate and follow Christ (the Messiah).
Colossians 2:8 See to it that no one carries you off as spoil or makes you yourselves captive by his so-called philosophy and intellectualism and vain deceit (idle fancies and plain nonsense), following human tradition (men’s ideas of the material rather than the spiritual world), just crude notions following the rudimentary and elemental teachings of the universe and disregarding [the teachings of] Christ (the Messiah).
3. Make sure whatever you do lines up with the Word. Going against God’s will may not bring immediate defeat. But it will bring defeat.
Psalm 107:10-11 Some sat in darkness and in the shadow of death, being bound in affliction and in irons, 11Because they had rebelled against the words of God and spurned the counsel of the Most High.
Romans 1:18 For God’s [holy] wrath and indignation are revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who in their wickedness repress and hinder the truth and make it inoperative.
4. Step outside your comfort zone. If you are doing something that’s uncomfortable, remember it was your wrong thinking that became a comfort zone in your life. Feelings can betray us. God never will. Find out his will in all situations.
Psalm 23:4 Yes, though I walk through the [deep, sunless] valley of the shadow of death, I will fear or dread no evil, for You are with me; Your rod [to protect] and Your staff [to guide], they comfort me.
5. Do not deliberately do something you know will bring harm and is against the word and will of God. Repent and change if you’ve already done this.
2 Corinthians 7:10 For godly grief and the pain God is permitted to direct, produce a repentance that leads and contributes to salvation and deliverance from evil, and it never brings regret; but worldly grief (the hopeless sorrow that is characteristic of the pagan world) is deadly [breeding and ending in death].