Love means having to say you are sorry

In 1970 a very sappy movie came out called Love Story starring Ryan O’Neal and Ali McGraw. It was a story of unconditional love. Actually, it was a pretty good movie. But it carried a message that could easily lead us astray.

Perhaps the most famous line from the movie was “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”

That would be all well and good if we were perfect, if we never did anything that harmed or hurt those we love. I’m clearly not perfect. Try as I might, I still say or do things that hurt my wife, my kids or others in my life. When I do that, I need to set things right. And not only with the one I have directly hurt, but with others who may have observed. For example, if my kids see me do something that is hurtful or disrespectful to their mother, I need to set things right. That only begins with an “I’m sorry.” It also requires intentional, observable actions to “set things with and keep them right.” That’s repentance.

Much more important, I still do things that disappoint God. It’s called sin, missing the mark. I can’t “set things right” with God unless I acknowledge my errant ways and say “I’m sorry.” Again, that’s not enough. I must also repent in my ways. not only turn away from that action, but actually turn around and do things to stay on the right course. Anything less and I am not on the “road to perfection.”

Saying “I’m sorry” is also a prerequisite to asking for forgiveness.

Who  said it was all easy?

Shalom, Art
Alive in The Word

About aliveintheword

Missouri, USA Married to Marty, 45 years 2 sons (with 2 daughers-in-law) and 2 granddaughters Life dedicated to serving Jesus Christ and delivering the Good News
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9 Responses to Love means having to say you are sorry

  1. granbee says:

    It is never easy to say “I’m sorry” but it is always right and Godly! Thanks,Brother Art!

  2. April says:

    I agree it is not easy to say I am sorry but it is so cleansing when we do.

    • Thanks April. It struck me as I read your response that under the Law of Moses, the Israelites/Jews went through elaborate cleansing and purification rituals which they had to repeat. They dealt only with the outside.

      Empowered and guided by the Holy Spirit things such as apology (I’m sorry), confession, repentance and forgiving cleanse us on the inside…. and are (hopefully) lasting.

      Shalom, Art

  3. mtsweat says:

    Indeed, not easy… but so important!

  4. ptl2010 says:

    Sometimes it is difficult to say “I’m sorry” to members of God’s family. Many volunteers in Church are sensitive and just walk away because a brother or sister in Christ forgot to say “I’m sorry”. The Lord help us to forgive or say sorry when warranted in Church and in the family. .

  5. I know the reason you chose the title – to tie in with the saying from the movie – but I believe it might be more accurate to say “Love means saying you are sorry”. This indicates a willingness, rather than a “have to”. On the other hand, of course, there is a “having to” or there could be no forgiveness.
    Just thinking on paper . . .

  6. wdednh says:

    Reblogged this on YOU DECIDE.

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