Being Better than Your Parents is the Wrong Goal

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Being WayBetter than Your Parents is the Wrong Goal

by Wayne Stiles

http://www.waynestiles.com/being-better-than-your-parents-is-the-wrong-goal/#more-166

 You can live better than your parents did.

Or you can live worse. It’s true.

Growing up in a godly home is no guarantee you’ll follow God. But it’s also true that a godless home doesn’t doom you to a failed life.

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I know of one young man who had as his goal to be a better father than his father was to him. And he did it.

But then he realized that wasn’t enough.

Being better than your parents is doable, sure, but it’s the wrong goal.

Learning from Snapshots

At some point today, pull out a family photo album of years ago. Or glance through your digital collection.

You’ll see snapshots of younger parents and yourself in numerous places and memories. Snapshots capture more than moments of time. They save reminders.

  • “I forgot about that blouse.”
  • “Look how thin Dad used to be!”
  • “Mom’s handwriting is the same.”

To be sure, the photos will conjure up painful memories as well. But it’s precisely ALL those memories—both the good and the bad—that give strength in times of struggle.

Whenever I see pictures of years ago, and remember the pain associated with those moments, I also realize that my family has persevered through those times. Somehow, with God’s remarkable strength, we have endured.

Your situation is no different. The reality of success is perseverance of character.

Success never just happens by itself. Godliness is intentional, not accidental. (Tweet that.)

Being Better than Your Parents is the Wrong Goal

You only have to look at the kings of Judah to see that the product of any home has more to do with the child’s decisions than simply the parents’ training.

What about you? Here are two questions to answer and two courses to follow:

1. Did you have godly parents? Emulate their lives, but walk your own walk with God.

Your parents’ godliness isn’t inherited. You are your own person before God. Your success comes by:

  • Showing up every single day
  • Staying on your knees before God
  • Making time with the Father the priority of your day
  • Embracing apologies and humility as friends rather than as enemies to your pride
  • Believing the best about your mate, your children, your siblings, your parents, and that friend of yours who offended you.

2. Did you have godless parents? Learn from their lives, but walk your own walk with God.

Your parents’ godless lives aren’t inherited (depravity notwithstanding). You are your own person before God.

What I love about Josiah’s success stems from a commitment we also can adopt.

  • Refusing to allow a parent’s failure to define our future.
  • Seeing the new generation of our lives as a line in the sand over which we will step and never step back.

Being better than your parents may happen. But if that’s your goal, then it stems from pride and spite. Obviously, that’s the wrong motivation.

Being better than your parents is the wrong goal because they aren’t the standard.

The goal of every parent—and of every person—ought to be to live like Jesus Christ.

Please leave a comment: What did your parents’ examples teach you?

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2 Responses to Being Better than Your Parents is the Wrong Goal

  1. I wouldn’t want to follow any lesson from my parents, especially not from my father or from my other two ‘fathers’.
    Praise God that He called me to Himself regardless of my family and past history. He adopted me into His own family and continues to mould me into the person He wants me to be. I look to HIM and know that HE will continue His work in me until the day when He calls me home and I am presented faultless before His throne, thanks ONLY to His work in me.

  2. Ouch! This post hurts me with deep conviction. I am always aware of how my mother raised me and where I think she went wrong. I try my best not to repeat her mistakes. Yet I make my own mistakes often and my fear is that no matter how hard I try, my girls will repeat this process themselves. Thank you so much for sharing this. The part that hit me hardest was,
    “Being better than your parents may happen. But if that’s your goal, then it stems from pride and spite. Obviously, that’s the wrong motivation. Being better than your parents is the wrong goal because they aren’t the standard. The goal of every parent—and of every person—ought to be to live like Jesus Christ.”
    Fabulous truth! Blessings to you!

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