Faith Child – How should Christians discipline their children?

Question: “How should Christians discipline their children? What does the Bible say?”

Answer:How to best discipline children can be difficult task to learn, but it is crucially important. Some claim that physical discipline (corporal punishment) such as spanking is the only method the Bible supports. Others insist that “time-outs” and other punishments that do not involve physical discipline are far more effective. What does the Bible say? The Bible teaches that physical discipline is appropriate, beneficial, and necessary. Do not misunderstand—we are by no means advocating child abuse.

A child should never be disciplined physically to the extent that it causes actual physical damage. According to the Bible, though, the appropriate and restrained physical discipline of children is a good thing and contributes to the well-being and correct upbringing of the child. Many Scriptures do in fact promote physical discipline. “Don’t fail to correct your children. They won’t die if you spank them. Physical discipline may well save them from death” (Proverbs 23:13-14; see also 13:24; 22:15; 20:30). The Bible strongly stresses the importance of discipline; it is something we must all have in order to be productive people, and it is much more easily learned when we are young. Children who are not disciplined often grow up rebellious, have no respect for authority, and as a result find it difficult to willingly obey and follow God. God Himself uses discipline to correct us and lead us down the right path and to encourage repentance for our wrong actions (Psalm 94:12;Proverbs 1:7;6:23;12:1;13:1;15:5;Isaiah 38:16;Hebrews 12:9)

In order to apply discipline correctly and according to biblical principles, parents must be familiar with the scriptural advice regarding discipline. The book of Proverbs contains plentiful wisdom regarding the rearing of children, such as, “The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother” (Proverbs 29:15). This verse outlines the consequences of not disciplining a child—the parents are disgraced. Of course, discipline must have as its goal the good of the child and must never be used to justify the abuse and mistreatment of children. Never should it be used to vent anger or frustration.

Discipline is used to correct and train people to go in the right way. “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12:11).

God’s discipline is loving, as should it be between parent and child. Physical discipline should never be used to cause lasting physical harm or pain. Physical punishment should always be followed immediately by comforting the child with assurance that he/she is loved. These moments are the perfect time to teach a child that God disciplines us because He loves us and that, as parents, we do the same for our children. Can other forms of discipline, such as “time-outs,” be used instead of physical discipline? Some parents find that their children do not respond well to physical discipline. Some parents find that “time-outs,” grounding, and/or taking something away from the children is more effective in encouraging behavioral change. If that is indeed the case, by all means, a parent should employ the methods that best produce the needed behavioral change.

While the Bible undeniably advocates physical discipline, the Bible is more concerned with the goal of building godly character than it is in the precise method used to produce that goal. Making this issue even more difficult is the fact that governments are beginning to classify all manner of physical discipline as child abuse. Many parents do not spank their children for fear of being reported to the government and risk having their children taken away.

What should parents do if a government has made physical discipline of children illegal? According toRomans 13:1-7, parents should submit to the government. A government should never contradict God’s Word, and physical discipline is, biblically speaking, in the best interest of children. However, keeping children in families in which they will at least receive some discipline is far better than losing children to the “care” of the government. InEphesians 6:4, fathers are told not to exasperate their children. Instead, they are to bring them up in God’s ways. Raising a child in the “training and instruction of the Lord” includes restrained, corrective, and, yes, loving physical discipline

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3 Responses to Faith Child – How should Christians discipline their children?

  1. The thing that most urges me to action is seeing any form of child abuse – physical, mental, emotional or sexual. Having said that, I do not believe that physical discipline, correctly applied, is child abuse. It is sometimes necessary as part of parental care and training, but of course, NEVER given to extremes or in temper.

    The biggest responsibility of parents (and the greatest privilege) is to nurture their children in all areas, and to bring them up to know, love and serve the living God. Since children learn best by example, the attitudes and actions of the parents will speak louder than other factors.

    I have known parents who decry physical discipline to totally berate a child with harmful words, which have a much more lasting and detrimental effect than a spanking.

  2. ptl2010 says:

    I agree totally with Art. It is godly living that is the best foundation. I remember this chorus we sang when I was in Sunday School

    “Two little eyes to look to God
    Two little ears to hear His Word
    Two little feet to walk in His ways
    Two little hands to do His will
    And one little heart to love Him still.”

    If two little eyes look only at human parents
    Listen to what they say to each other and to others with evil words and lies
    Walk with parents into or by places of ill or poor repute (on land or on TV or computer)
    Watch parents do with their hands (like cheating on parking coupons or taking more than needed at the buffet table) what they should not,
    Then the little hearts will not love Him as they should.

  3. “While the Bible undeniably advocates physical discipline, the Bible is more concerned with the goal of building godly character than it is in the precise method used to produce that goal.”

    Many view “discipline” in terms of corporal punishment. It is so very much more! A disciplined life is built on a foundation… what some call “godly living.”. While each of us is born with the conflicting nature of original sin and preceding grace our propensity in act (behave) is founded on the values we are taught, how we are nurtured.

    Like the houses built on rock or sand I see the differences in children all the time. Establishing discipline in our children’s lives is not just an event. It’s a life long process.

    Shalom, Art
    Alive in The Word

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