mirror refection

MIRROR, MIRROR, on the wall! What do you see?
One of the problems with abuse is that many people fail to identify their own personal character traits. Whether they ignore them, deny them, or are just plain narcissistic where they think that they are perfect and everyone else is to blame for everything, the end result is basically the same.

The abusers exhibit these negative characteristics at the expense of their victims, with varying degrees of severity. If we all look at a mirror and look at a true reflection of ourselves, what do we see? Do we see positive traits or do we see negative traits? Do we see a mixture? What do our families and friends see when they relate to us? If what we see and what our families and friends see are different, that should be a BIG RED FLAG that there is a problem!! When we truthfully evaluate ourselves, this should be a simple test to just circle the traits that correspond to your own personality…

These are some abusive and non-abusive characteristics or character traits:

A= Angry/ Abrasive/ Antagonistic/ Attacking/ A-straying
B= Bad/ Belittling/ badgering/ Blaming/ Boastful/ Bigotry/ Bully
U= Unkind/ Unhappy/ Un-Godly/ Using/ Unrelenting/ Unrealistic/ Unsatisfied/ Unreliable/ Unfaithful
S= Scolding/ Slanderous/ Sarcastic/ Selfish/ Scaring/ Stinging/ Slick/ Shifty
I= Injustice/ Inconsiderate/ Inequality/ Indecent/ Infidelity/ Intolerant/ injurious/ Insulting/ Immoral/ Irritable
V= Violent/ vindictive/ Villain/ Violating/ Venomous/ Vengeful
E= Egotistical/ Exploitation/ Evil/ Explosive/ Endangering/ Erratic/ exalting of self

N= Nice/ Normal/ Nourishing/ Non-boastful/ Non-oppositional
O= Open/ Overlooking/ Obliging/ Obedient
N= Non-fault finding/ Never negative/ Non-demanding/ Non-oppressive
A= Affirming/ Adoring/ Accepting/ Admiring/ Appreciative/ Assisting/ Appropriate/ Authentic/ Accountable
B= Believing/ Benevolence/ Blessing/ Beneficial/ Blameless behavior
U= Understanding/ Uplifting/ Unselfish/ ultra-caring/ Urging/ Unimpeachable/ Upright
S= Sincere/ Sensitive/ Sacrificial/ Spiritual/ sympathetic/ Supportive/ Sinless/ Saintly
I= Impartial/ Integrity/ Infallible/ Innocence/ Ideal/ Insightful/ Impeccable
V= Virtuous/ Vested
E= Esteeming/ Encouraging/ Ethical/ Empathic/ exalting of others/ Easygoing

No matter what characteristics that we identify within ourselves or our family identifies, as we seek the Lord and ask Him to help us, to heal us, and to purify us, I know that God will answer those prayers. One thing that I have learned through all of my experiences as a victim of abuse, is that even the abusers were once victims… In most cases, they learned by the abusive behaviors of their parents and others toward them.
My prayer is that all victims of abuse and all abusers will be healed and delivered of their past and they will step into their future as they walk with Christ who is the Healer and Deliverer…in Jesus’ name… Amen.

by Secret Angel of Secret Angel Ministry and The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel


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8 Responses to HE LIFTS US UP: MIRROR, MIRROR, on the wall!

  1. I’m glad you added boastful to the abused list. Some think this can’t be true of an abused person, because they have so little self esteem. The truth is that they are soooooo aware of their non-worth that they over emphasise and boast about the slightest good points, in an endeavour to boost their own self image.

    • secretangel says:

      Yes… abusers are very boastful in an effort to put others down and build themselves up. It is part of the narcissism that many have where they think they are always right and never at fault.

  2. I believe support is the key

  3. Love how clear these lists are. thank you!

    • secretangel says:

      I am so glad that you liked it. Many times, it is difficult to realize how we behave until it is in black and white in front of us… then some still do not realize. Though we may have traits of both, hopefully some will realize if they lean more till abusive or non-abusive.. Many blessings to you!!

  4. secretangel says:

    Reblogged this on The Abuse Expose' with Secret Angel and commented:

    We all need to do a self-evaluation. I pray that God will reveal to each of us what needs to be changed and that He will purify hearts around the world, setting us all free from our pasts, to walk in a new life with Him.

  5. ptl2010 says:

    There is healing here for everyone man or woman

    Accept healing from Jesus Christ today.

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