This is the last installment for the 3 part blog. Hope we are going to learn from this and we will apply this.
C. Principle #3. WATCH THE WAY YOU TREAT OTHERS.
Jesus gave us what is called the Golden Rule. It’s all about how we treat others.
Luke 6:31 “Do to others as you would have them do to you.” That’s a simple rule.
The Bible is very clear about how to treat people and about how not to treat people. I can talk all I want about a commitment to great relationships, but if my talk doesn’t change the way I treat others it’s worth nothing.
The Bible says, “Here’s how to not to treat people in relationships.” Philippians 2:3 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit.”
These are two attitudes that are guaranteed to destroy relationships.
Selfish ambition — What will I get? Why will I get from this relationship? That’s going to destroy the relationship. It’s not going to work.
Vain conceit — How will I look? Sometimes we wear relationships like a flashy gold bracelet — it’s who we’re with, trying to make ourselves feel better. That kind of love doesn’t work.
The Bible also tells us what does work in relationships.
1 Corinthians 13:4 “Love is patient, love is kind.” We treat others with patience and kindness.
“It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
Dietrich Bonhoeffer was a pastor who was imprisoned in a German concentration camp during World War II. He eventually died for his faith there. While in this concentration camp he wrote to a young couple preparing for marriage. “Live together in forgiveness for without it no human relationship, least of all a marriage, can survive. Don’t insist on your rights. Don’t find fault with each other. Accept each other as you are. And forgive each other every day from the bottom of your hearts.” That’s a recipe for great relationships. That’s how God loves me. Jesus Christ forgives me every day from the bottom of His heart. That’s what the cross is all about. That cross gives me the power to forgive others. I couldn’t forgive anybody without that power. But I can see in that cross to begin to do this in my relationships. Treat others the way that Jesus treated me.
Who do you need to forgive? for something that happened yesterday or twenty years ago? When it comes to this kind of love Jesus is the perfect example. He showed us the way. But it’s more than that. He didn’t just show us how to love. He loved us in this kind of way. He loved us with this kind of love.
1 John 4:9, 10 “This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him.10 This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”
If you want to see real love, look at the cross of Jesus Christ. That’s real love.
We all want to better our relationships. Don’t try to better your human relationships without a relationship with Jesus Christ. That’s where it starts. Start by beginning a relationship with Him. If your relationships are going to get better you need His strength and power. Why not start today? It’s a simple thing. You just talk to Him in prayer and tell Him, “I want to start a relationship with You, Jesus Christ.”