I have mentioned in previous posts that I now reside in a “Senior Living Residence”. People there are ambulatory and pretty much have it together. There appears to be normal temperance and tolerance for things that bug all of us. The main problem is old age (perhaps, for some, old-age thinking).
A center for conversation is the dining room “coffee table”. Once in a while some negative “curiosities” will arise; much the same as at Starbucks. An observation was reported that she, meaning Dora, is a “spoiled brat’ because of her Dora’s summation; “I can do anything I want; I’m 92 !
Well in this place of some 125 residents, 92 is not necessarily a big number. Being a pain in the butt about it is way in the minority. My reaction was to comment: “Well, maybe she is not to old to be spanked”. While this drew a few giggles, the possibilities were considered, short of resorting to the paddle. And, beyond that; just who might do it. Not me.
I think the very,very, young and the very,very old deserve a bit of leeway. Given the attention to child and elder abuse, we find the line being drawn ever closer.
To coin the phrase; Let him (her) who is without “moments” cast the first stone. But, how do we deal with habitual moments?
The answer may be, perhaps WE don’t, in the case of Dora. Proverbs 13:24, however, confronts us: “He that spares his rod, hateth the son (daughter)”. Again, translated “Spare the rod; Spoil the child.
We are known as the “children” of God. We may consider His predictable reprimands for our foolishness as father-love and we may grow in appreciation for His often not so tender use of the paddle. I am prone to pray on this one; even to be on Dora’s team. Father knows best.
However, as a father, grandfather, and great grand father, I am prone to walk softly but pick up a small switch. Children may well have forgotten any event by the age 92 when He (she) can feel “free at last” and be the subject of coffee table psychology and resolution.
As a post script to this; later that day we met Dora’s daughter in the elevator and had a lengthy conversation. God had truly done what He does; Dora is moving to a full-care facility in a matter of days. He spared the paddle and just loved the child in her distress. May we all be so blessed when the time comes.