HE LIFTS US UP: ABUSE AWARENESS– Marital Rape or Spousal Rape

I am continuing a series on the various abuses. Now, I will proceed with the next abuse: Marital Rape or Spousal Rape.

Yesterday, I posted a information on the subject of RAPE at Domestic Violence Day 16: RAPE..

Today, I want to do something different for this topic of marital rape. According to RAINN, “Marital rape occurs when your spouse forces you to have sex without your consent. It is a form of intimate partner violence where one spouse attempts to establish dominance and control over the other. Research shows it is possibly more emotionally and physically traumatizing than rape by a stranger.” Now, in the last 30 years, laws have been passed to make this illegal but it is very rarely prosecuted.

Since most of the marital rape information is the same as the regular rape information, I want to include a simple poem about marital rape…

These words just echo…
I said NO!! NO!!
But he yelled SILENCE!
and I saw his violence.
I cried STOP!
But he was angrily on top.
I saw his anger
and felt the danger.
He had no control…
like Satan consumed his soul.
Who was this evil man?
Surely not my husband!
But who would ever know?
I had no place to go!
Confused and terrified…
I just cried and cried.
Is this what marriage is like,
when we became man and wife?
Did he have that right,
to attack me with his might?
He stole my innocence,
with that act of violence.
But he was the man I loved…
so I cried out to God above.
But fear kept me paralyzed…
and took me years to realize.
Everyone has to know!!!
Even a wife can say NO!!

Everyone has a right to say no. No means stop! No means No! No spouse should use violence in a loving, caring,  and nurturing relationship. Remember, rape is not about sex. It is all about power and control. Rape can occur even if you are married!




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5 Responses to HE LIFTS US UP: ABUSE AWARENESS– Marital Rape or Spousal Rape

  1. ptl2010 says:

    “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” Revelation 21:4

  2. I can still see the final escalation of this in my mind’s eye. I don’t know… Does God remove it, or just heal over it…leaving it inside me. I really don’t want it. It doesn’t have power over me…it’s just there and I know it. Thank you for including marital rape-behind closed doors it stayed. AoA

    • secretangel says:

      I totally understand how you feel. That was the first physical/ sexual violence that I experienced within months of being a newlywed. I was in total shock. How can someone who claims to love you do this. I can tell you that God heals and He restores. We can’t scab over the wounds but have to allow God to expose them so that healing can take place. I will continue to pray for you, my sister. God has a plan for us… but He is still healing us. One day at a time is all that we can do as we hold onto Him every step of the way.

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