Forgiveness Revisited

An incident with a friend compelled me to revisit the Biblical principle of forgiveness. I know the verses. I know forgiving someone is for my benefit, not theirs. I know I must continually confess my sins to Christ. I must always seek forgiveness from anyone I have injured.

I discovered this loved one does not understand forgiveness. My friend is performance oriented. Their relationships are based on what a person does or does not do. Not on who they are. I did something my friend thought I should not have done. To me it was a misunderstanding of the original intent. To them, it was a gross injustice. My friend responded with anger, hateful verbal (and written) assaults, and unmerciful criticism.

I asked for forgiveness, genuinely and kindly. They would not forgive me. My dear friend said they could not. If I really cared for this person I would not have done what I did, they scolded.

Several days passed and I was able to physically undo what I had done to cause my friend to become angry. When my friend discovered that I “undid” what I did to make them mad, my friend’s whole demeanor changed, as if nothing had ever happened. Not because I asked for forgiveness.

I feel sad for my friend who still must learn what unconditional forgiveness is and how it impacts our lives.

The experience taught me that I need not go to the altar with anything against anyone.

About Steve Sawyer

God blessed me with the gift of writing. Mom told me I wrote paragraphs in second grade when others were learning to write sentences. I spent more than three decades in professional writing gigs. For the past eight years I've combined my passion for writing with my love for the Lord. He and I write a Christ-centered, family-friendly blog to glorify God Monday-thru Friday at My wife and I have four grown children and two precious granddaughters we co-parent with their mom. I'm a Galatians 2:20 disciple of Christ seeking to allow Christ to live His life in me, through me, and as me.
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2 Responses to Forgiveness Revisited

  1. ptl2010 says:

    Ephesians 4: 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

    Yes, Jesus taught us to pray : forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. May we be obedient and receive His peace in our forgiveness.

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