My 16-year-old daughter has been battling a huge issue throughout her life. She was raised in an orphanage and by the time we adopted her, she was over 2 years of age.
Historical documents of where her people originated from do not exist; therefore, we do not know where she came from. Her people were slaves to another country about a thousand years ago, but prior to that, no one in her culture knows where their origins started. Why? Because her people group passed everything down orally. They could not read or write.
To make matters worse as a teenager, she found out that not only did her birth family give her up, but even her own people group would not accept her back. She would also not be accepted by the country she was born in because of severe discrimination against her people.
As a teen, she was left with a lot of baggage about her self-worth and also left wondering what value did she really have? Thoughts and beliefs would soon follow and she began to have a false perception of herself and of how God saw her.
As a teen, have you ever said these things to yourself?
1. “I’m such a failure because I can’t do anything right.”
2. “I could never be forgiven because I can’t measure up.”
3. “I can’t forgive myself.”
4. “I don’t think I will make it to heaven because I’m not good enough.”
5. “I don’t have a future. Why bother to have hope.”
6. “I don’t feel like I will ever be accepted.”
7. “No one loves me. I’m unlovable.”
These are some pretty heavy thoughts. But the good news is…they are all lies. Not one of those statements are true. They come from the enemy, satan, who wants to discredit you, shame you, devalue you, and condemn you for who you are. So what is the truth?
First of all, you are a child of the King. No matter who has abandoned you, looked down on you, rejected you, God and only God who loves you unconditionally, is the one who created you for His purposes. He loves those who are imperfect, weak, and worthless in society. Why would He you ask? Because, God does not make mistakes and He desires to have a personal relationship with you and to heal you. He knows exactly how you feel and where you are at in your life. He also purchased you with a price – the blood of Jesus, because that is how valuable you are to Him.
Secondly, Jesus came for the sick, the poor, the humble and for the imperfect. If you were perfect in every way, there would be no need for Jesus. I know that everyone falls into traps of worthlessness but by repeating those statements and believing in them, we are also dishonoring God. How? It would be as if we were saying that God made us as failures and we know that God doesn’t make failures.
In Psalm 139, it says, “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.”
Because you have been created in God’s image as it says in Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. , it also proves that God did not create you as worthless.
Even Moses felt like he was not worthy enough to be used to free God’s people. Exodus 4:10-13 But Moses said to the Lord, “Oh, my Lord, I am not eloquent, either in the past or since you have spoken to your servant, but I am slow of speech and of tongue.” Then the Lord said to him, “Who has made man’s mouth? Who makes him mute, or deaf, or seeing, or blind? Is it not I, the Lord? Now therefore go, and I will be with your mouth and teach you what you shall speak.” But he said, “Oh, my Lord, please send someone else.” However, even in Moses’ stubbornness, God still used him.
When God created you, He had every intention to use you for His glory, including your perceived imperfections and failures too. You may not see it just yet, but if you yield your life over to Him, He will take away those thoughts that are not of Him and reveal how He wants to use you. He sees so much value, so much worth even when we don’t feel worthy and when you feel hopeless. He is not done with your story yet. He began your story and He knows the ending. It is the in-between that is still being written. Just trust Him!
And I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in his grace until his task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns.
Below is the story of one young man who grew up being bullied, different from others, worthless and depressed, and not wanting to live. Hear his story of how God changed his life.