For some folks “No” is the single most difficult word to say.

Jesus teaches in Matthew 5:37,

“Let your yes be yes and your no be no.”

We say “yes” easily. Sometimes when we mean to say “no,” we still say “yes”.

For years I kept saying “yes” to folks when I should have been saying “no”. Too many commitments meant too few accomplishments. Over-commitment is an enemy of humility and stewardship. It disrupts fellowship with God.

All those years playing an over-committed, people-pleasing Christian, I feared people would not accept me if I said no. I equated more works with more acceptance from people and more favor from God.

Today, thank God, I am learning what healthy boundaries are and how to set them. And I’m learning that if I say “no” sometimes, the sun will still come up tomorrow.

About Steve Sawyer

God blessed me with the gift of writing. Mom told me I wrote paragraphs in second grade when others were learning to write sentences. I spent more than three decades in professional writing gigs. For the past eight years I've combined my passion for writing with my love for the Lord. He and I write a Christ-centered, family-friendly blog to glorify God Monday-thru Friday at My wife and I have four grown children and two precious granddaughters we co-parent with their mom. I'm a Galatians 2:20 disciple of Christ seeking to allow Christ to live His life in me, through me, and as me.
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10 Responses to No.


  2. ptl2010 says:

    No – a word I heard from a very young age from my parents. It had negative connotations mostly and I did not like the word preferring the word Yes which most times brought a smile versus a scowl.
    I thank God for my mother who taught me early on when I could understand, to say No
    – to wrong- doing and sin,
    – to being a sense- less copycat of peers and
    – to stand up so I was not bullied at school.
    Thank God for keeping me in balance – in life , at work or play and inter-actions.
    It has surely been the grace and mercy of The Lord to me.

    Thank you Steve for reminding us all of what is important to our lives – Yes? No?

  3. Sue C. says:

    When I finally learned I could say no – look out world! 🙂

    • Steven Sawyer says:

      What a burden off our shoulders when we can learn to set boundaries and keep them. Thanks for sharing. God bless.

  4. LovingMinistry says:

    Nothing greatest than an appropriate NO! Well done

  5. sameaton says:

    I have been doing so much better at this lately! I have such a strong passion to serve and love People but God is also teaching me about creating space for him and the relationships in my life. Thank you for this reminder!!

    • Steven Sawyer says:

      Thank you for your affirmation. We both need to keep learning the difference you mention. Especially when we have that passion to serve, balance is such a difficult thing to achieve. Thank you for sharing.

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