Before They Go to School … Have This Conversation- reblogged from Proverbs 31 Ministries

So, do you want to know what an amazing and clearly spoken God we have?  This week I have been struggling with some major mom issues.  I have prayed.  I have spoken to wise friends.  I have sat with my husband for hours discussing my thoughts and concerns.  Then as I always do, I wrote.  I had to get my thoughts on paper – to order them, process and come to the right (godly) conclusion.  As a center point of my letter, I wrote about a verse that is in a frame in my house.  “As For Me and My house, we will serve the Lord.” 
 
I sent the letter and continued to fret.  Then today, after about the 10th time I have mulled on this – I opened up my email and BAM! – here is a devotion addressing the same.  Lysa TerKeurst has written about all the things that have worried me. In the midst of it, she chose the very same verse that I have been standing on.  
 
Well, that is the way God works, isn’t it?  Absolute confirmation that He hears us…and more importantly, has something to say back.  Thanks God, and thanks Lysa TerKeurst for being His instrument to speak LOUDLY in my ear too. I have pre-decided. I pray we all will too.  Amen and Amen.
 

Before They Go to School … Have This Conversation

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September 4, 2014

“But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve … but as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15 (NIV)

Lysa TerKeurst

I look around the dinner table and feel that desperate ache not uncommon to women who deeply love.

Whether it’s my own family or those who just feel like family, I want so much for them. These young people who are so full of possibility and dreams and bright futures … they have my heart.

Yet my heart feels fragile in the hands of these young people. They are smart. They are grounded. But they are young.

It takes me back to me at that age. And that scares me.

I remember feeling so grown up and crazy excited at the chance to be in charge of my own life. Ready for independence. Ready for love. Ready for the next chapter of my life.

Chasing what felt good and thrilling, I quickly learned the wind blows in dangerous directions sometimes. Going with the flow led me places I didn’t intend to go. And I woke up one morning ashamed of my choices, wondering how in the world I got to this place.

How?

I cringe thinking back on it. And I cry. Because I don’t want that experience for these people I desperately love.

So, in the midst of the laughter and casual banter, I turn the conversation at the dinner table to a word I want them to know and live.

Pre-decide.

Decide today who you want to be. In this moment of togetherness, surrounded by family, and saturated in love — decide.

Decide what your answer will be when the talk turns ugly and the laughter turns mean against that girl who desperately needs you to be her friend.

Decide what your answer will be when someone invites you to the cool party full of drinks and drugs.

Decide what your answer will be when the boy says it’s no big deal to stay the night.

Decide what your answer will be when “friends” laugh at your Christian views and challenge you to lighten up.

Pre-decide.

Decide today who you are going to turn to if you do get into trouble. Remember the people at this table. Remember who truly has your best interests at heart. Remember who you are.

Pre-decide.

Decide today to turn around any mistakes from your past by asking for God’s forgiveness and walking in His grace.

Decide today to ignore the enemy who wants to trick you and trip you and take you out.

Pre-decide. And only say yes to the decisions that lead you in the direction of becoming more like Christ. This is the Best Yes.

Yes, pre-decide.

And then we go around the table and tell what we are pre-deciding this year. And my heart feels less of that ache.

I’m not so foolish to think this will act as a bad choice immunization. We are all susceptible. But it is a way to infuse their heart with a memory of a pre-decision.

And with that the plates are cleared, the cookies are nothing more than crumbs, and it’s time to go.

Here are some great Bible verses to pray for our kids as they head off to school this year:

• Galatians 1:10
“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” (NIV)

• Romans 12:2
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is — his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (NIV)

• Joshua 24:15
“But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve … but as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” (NIV)

• Proverbs 29:25
“Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” (NIV)

So, along with these Scripture verses, I whisper a few last words that are a “best yes” for them as they pack up to go …

Go where wisdom gathers, not where wisdom scatters.

Make decisions today that will still be good tomorrow.

And (insert voice cracking and tears welling up), remember how much I love you.

Dear Lord, You are so good. Thank you for entrusting these people to me. I pray You’ll guide my family in Your way as we enter a new school year. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’” (NIV)

RELATED RESOURCES:
Be further equipped to have these kinds of discussions with your kids, your spouse, your coworkers, your fellow ministry leaders, etc. with Lysa’s new book, The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands. Click here to purchase your copy.

Every decision points us in the direction we are about to travel. So we’ve got to get good at chasing down our decisions. We need to look ahead to see where they will take us — and make sure that’s really where we want to go. Click here to download Lysa’s free “Chase Down That Decision” Tool from her new book The Best Yes to help you or your kids practically think through a decision that needs to be made.

REFLECT AND RESPOND:
Which of the above Scripture verses will you pray for your child? Write it down on an index card and personalize it using your child’s name. Then, put the index card where you will see it often during the day as a reminder to pray.

Lysa TerKeurstClick here to pin the imageClick here to download this free printable PDF

 © 2014 by Lysa TerKeurst. All rights reserved.

 

 

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It is my desire to serve God and others through writing; by proclaiming His goodness, provision and character in story form. Though I was not always a follower of Jesus Christ, I have experienced life changes that can only be a result of personally meeting Him. He is not a God of religion, but of relationship. I don't have the answers to life's challenges, but I know where to find them...only in God's Word can any of us stop following crooked paths. The month of my spiritual birthday, I read Proverbs 3:5-6 and claimed it as my life verse... "Trust in the Lord in all you do, lean not on your own understanding In all your ways acknowledge Him.... and He will Set Your Paths Straight." Thank you for your visit today. Please come back again.
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2 Responses to Before They Go to School … Have This Conversation- reblogged from Proverbs 31 Ministries

  1. ptl2010 says:

    Yes, I believe we should help the young people recognize, assess the risks of life BEFORE they get drawn unwittingly, hook, line and sinker into the traps of the enemy. Always realizing that finally having done, we pray for them , commit them to The Lord and believe that in the hour of temptation, they will flee youthful lusts and stand fast in the faith. They will be courageous and not faint. They will resist the enemy in the Name of Jesus, whose we are and in whose authority we live, and he will flee from them. O it is our heart’s desire for them to be more than conquerors in Christ Jesus. Having done all, let us commit them and trust in The Lord with all our hearts, lean not to our own understanding, but acknowledge Him, and He shall direct their paths. Amen!

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