For a lot of teenagers like you, they have someone very pivotal not in their life. To make that more clear, you can have a father, but maybe he is the distant father who only shows up for birthday’s or Christmas’. Maybe he’s the father that lives in your home but you would never know it because he is a loner and to himself without engaging in your life.
Quite possibly you have the father who is mentally or physically abusive towards you or the absent father who you have never met. In any case, your thoughts to what a father is can be quite confusing or scary. And for others, a feeling of being too unworthy of love and acceptance by your father.
Sadly, our whole entire world is inflicted with being father-in-less in some way. Especially hard is for the Christian teen who has a difficult time understanding what our Heavenly Father is to us.
My daughter was rejected by her birth father in her culture. He left when she was born and never bothered to come into her life. Her birth-mother remarried and now there is a stepfather whom she still does not have in her life because he lives all the way around the world. Since they don’t speak the same language and have never met, she still considers him a part of the birth family.
She also has an adoptive father who has been there for her most of her life. But even with that assurance of having her adopted dad in her life, she still felt disconnected, lost and confused. In her mind who is she supposed to love? Who is she to call her dad? If she says she loves one dad, will the others reject her? Because of those fears, she chose to not love anyone despite how desperately she just wanted a dad.
It took her a very long time to give her heart to the Lord. Why? Because if she loved all of her dads, there was always that possibility to have her heart broken or her trust taken away. She would feel unworthy all over again. And would the Heavenly Father reject her or leave her the way these men have left that played an integral part in her life?
Recently she shared with me something that maybe you as a teen can understand. “You know mom, there is one thing that I will be very happy about when I get to heaven,” she said. “What is that?” I replied. “I will finally get to meet my real daddy,” she answered.
And you know what? She was right. We will all get to meet our “Real” daddy. Because our Heavenly Father is the one who created us. He took time to create you with His thoughts, His desires for you, His plans for you, and He knows how worthy you are because He took so much time in making you in the image of Him.
Your Heavenly Father doesn’t do things half way or second best. He is saddened by the things you have endured with your earthly father and He wants to bring a healing and restoration in your heart so that you see Him, your Heavenly Father, as a Dad who loves you completely and unconditionally.
So remember, your Big Daddy will never forsake you or have you lose your trust in Him. He will never abuse you or keep Himself distant from you. He wants very much to be a part of your life if you are willing to let Him in.
For my daughter Daniela, she learned this past year of how much God loved her. Enough to look past her sin and still passionately longing to have her by His side. She also learned that no matter how bad she was, her Heavenly Father never rejected her or left her.
So our prayers for you is that your Big Daddy will reveal Himself to you in a way that helps you trust Him, to lean on Him, to draw closer to Him. We also pray that you will see Him in a new light, being one of love, mercy, patience, understanding and more. For He truly does love you and wants a close relationship with you. Just open your hearts and arms to receive your Daddy today.
Your Heavenly Father’s love towards you ~
Psalm 139 – O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. 2 You know when I sit or stand. When far away you know my every thought. 3 You chart the path ahead of me and tell me where to stop and rest. Every moment you know where I am. 4 You know what I am going to say before I even say it. 5 You both precede and follow me and place your hand of blessing on my head.
6 This is too glorious, too wonderful to believe! 7 I can never be lost to your Spirit! I can never get away from my God! 8 If I go up to heaven, you are there; if I go down to the place of the dead, you are there. 9 If I ride the morning winds to the farthest oceans, 10 even there your hand will guide me, your strength will support me. 11 If I try to hide in the darkness, the night becomes light around me. 12 For even darkness cannot hide from God; to you the night shines as bright as day. Darkness and light are both alike to you.
13 You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit them together in my mother’s womb. 14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! It is amazing to think about. Your workmanship is marvelous—and how well I know it. 15 You were there while I was being formed in utter seclusion! 16 You saw me before I was born and scheduled each day of my life before I began to breathe. Every day was recorded in your book!
17-18 How precious it is, Lord, to realize that you are thinking about me constantly! I can’t even count how many times a day your thoughts turn toward me.[a] And when I waken in the morning, you are still thinking of me!
Do you ask “How can it be?” that your Heavenly Father loves you so much? Watch this video to find your answer.