GROWING OLD FOR THE SECOND TIME

Popular thought has it; that when you get to be over eighty (maybe even sooner}, you begin to search for structure and relief from the common chores of life.

Developers are building Condos and Senior Living “Villages” that are supposed to bring that relief and keep you active physically and mentally. To some extent this has been oversold. If we have planned to escape from routine living on our own, they may qualify. Certainly, for those who have ended up alone with diminishing physical capabilities, it may well be the answer.

Life is a journey and we must change buses from time to time We often choose another vehicle because it does not go to where we want to go. Or, perhaps, as in our case, the one we boarded is not going where we thought it was headed.

I’m speaking of our choice (my wife and I) to move to a “Senior Residence”. It was everything promised; no household responsibilities, no cooking, no lack of choice in the active schedule of activities and trips.

It was not long before I began to take over the responsibilities of daily watering the flower- laden paths all around the place… then teaching art to beginners as a free service: Just looking for stuff to do.

My body began to adjust to the less active routine…. although they had a few rusty -rudimentary exercise machines and a pool that I did not use.  I fell into a routine of riding their unused three-wheeled bike, walking to the park, and ritual coffee conversations with the 9:00 am single ladies ( few men ventured forth at any hour).

My body  and mind began to say; “Is that all there is?”

In short, and maybe not so short, the experiment lasted for a year: During which time there was a myriad of resident  falls and failings with two alarm visits to the hospital…. which testified to the fact that that most were there because of marginal health reasons, and the loneliness of being by oneself at home. Unfortunately, once you have adopted a walker, she’s yours.

When our retiring daughter suggested that we move with her to a owner -duplex, yet to be found, in the same familiar neighborhood, we could not wait to search, buy, and move; not because of our dislike of anything at the “Lodge”, but we were just not ready at eighty five.

What we soon discovered was that purpose in our lives began to rekindle. Projects began anew. My body found that it needed stronger demands, our cooking was not that hard or bad; and my mind reacted to the problem solving that goes with the new challenge of income property ownership and fix-up. And, I am watering our own flowers.

We were getting old all over again. This time, still in the game, calling for substitutions now and then, requiring a slower pitch and never hitting “it” beyond the shortstop; then often being called out at first. But, somehow occasionally scoring points with the help of others in our family.

What then would be my conclusion? Never turn over things to others (except God of course) that you can do yourself. Don’t ever let your body get away from you. Involve yourself in projects that require patience and problem solving. Re-engage the Spirit full-time and challenge Him to tempt you to do things forgotten and imagined too difficult for you.

Finally; When you see the bus coming, don’t worry about the destination; Get on…… just have a plan for getting back home before dark.

And, Oh yes, bring a sandwich and umbrella!

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NOTE  from   ptl2010

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About 4hispraise

I am quite simply a child of our Lord God. What good that I have done or may do, I pray will reflect solely on the presence of The Holy Spirit who speaks for me in all things.
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3 Responses to GROWING OLD FOR THE SECOND TIME

  1. 4hispraise says:

    And the umbrella? Longfellow suggests ( and rightly so) “Thy fate is the common fate of all; Unto each life some rain will fall”.

  2. ptl2010 says:

    “What then would be my conclusion? Never turn over things to others (except God of course) that you can do yourself. Don’t ever let your body get away from you. Involve yourself in projects that require patience and problem solving. Re-engage the Spirit full-time and challenge Him to tempt you to do things forgotten and imagined too difficult for you.”

    So true, and applicable spiritually as well.

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