Grace Needed

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In this country you have the right and the freedom to choose to live and do whatever you wish, as long as it is legal.
But you should not have the freedom to force me to be a part of your choices, or to support them if it disagrees with my belief and convictions.

I posted this recently on Facebook. Maybe I shouldn’t have. . As a Christian too often I have adopted an us vs. them mentality.
And while my stand on Facebook post is true it could be taken that way, confrontational, me vs. them.

Jesus encounters a woman at a well. 
After asking her for a drink of water,and a discussion about thirst the conversation turns to her life situation. Jesus inquires about her husband, and when she says “I don’t have one”
tells her “you have had five husbands, and are currently living with a man you are not married to.”
The woman to her credit does not deny but acknowledges Him as a prophet, and then she does do what we all do when our dirty laundry is brought out in the open, changes the subject. She attempts to draw Jesus into a theological discussion about where to worship.
In his book Vanishing Grace Phillip Yancey says this;
Jesus deflects this theological discussion, refusing an argument about where God should be worshiped and instead summoned up a thirst already evident in her troubled life of five failed marriages.
To this woman who was not only a despised Samaritan, but also an outcast among her own people because of her immorality. Jesus’s willingness to talk to her, to look past her faults, and offer her “living water”,  provided the one thing she needed most.
Scripture records that this encounter not only changed her life but also “Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in Him because of the women’s testimony.” John 4:39
Sometimes there is a definite lack of grace in our world today.
Instead of Jew versus Samaritan, Jew vs. Gentile, today it is Christian versus atheist. Christian versus Muslim. Christians versus homosexuals. Christians versus Christians.
The result is that even though the church does many good things, we are often viewed as unkind, judgmental, narrow-minded, unloving, harsh.
And like my post on Facebook we can be theologically, constitutionally and legally correct, but miss the most important thing grace.
In his book Yancey tells the story of Craig Detweiler.
Craig had for a number of years brought his communications students from Pepperdine and Biola University to the Sundance Film Festival.
This particular year one of the sold-out showings featured a film that was a scathing portrayal of American evangelicals
The movie told the story of a white-bread suburban family killed in a car wreck on the way to a Southern Baptist church meeting.
After getting to heaven they are sent back to earth by a tattooed Jesus.
This time stripped of original sin, they celebrate their new shamelessness by walking around naked and doing things that shock their friends and neighbors.
Scandalized, other Christians at a Bible study hatch a plan to give the resurrected family an apple pie laced with poison, sending them promptly back to heaven.
The Sundance audience laughed uproariously throughout the film, relishing the depiction of Christians as repressed, intolerant, even homicidal…..

The director received a standing ovation and fielding questions from the audience was asked if any conservative Christians had seen it. “I’m ready for the fight,” he declared, prompting more applause.
Without thinking Craig Detweiler stood to his feet with a response.
I’ll  let him relate what happened next.
I struggled to compose my words. My voice cracked slightly. I eked our, “Jay thank you for this film. As a native of North Carolina, a fellow filmmaker, and an evangelical Christian…..”
I never use the word evangelical. It is so loaded with negative baggage that I usually attempt to distance myself from such associations.
But in this instance it seemed quite right
I was speaking for my community, responding to a particular stance we’d staked ourselves.
Jay stepped back ready for the fight, tensed up, preparing for the counterattack. The crowd sensed it was about to get ugly.
My next words caught them off-guard:
“Jay I apologize for everything ever done to you in the name of God.”
The tenor of the room shifted. Audience members turned around. “Did I hear that correctly?”
“Who said that?”
Jay fumbled for words, not knowing how to respond. He was not prepared for an apology. He offered a modest”Thank you”
The audience literally was disarmed.
Audience members afterwards approached me with hugs.
A lesbian couple thanked me.
Gay men hugged me.
One person said, “If that is true, I might consider giving Christianity another chance.”
Tears were shed.
Because of two little words. ” I apologize”

My students talked to the cast and crew and invited them to join us for further conversations.
The cast came to our class and answered questions for over an hour.
An actor admitted how scared he was to enter our church meeting place. Onstage he confided, “Coming into this building, my heart was beating faster than any audition I’ve ever had.”
The producer said,”This was the most significant moment of our week.”
A simple apology set in motion a series of conversations and exchanges about our faith and how we live it.”
Even though I stand by and believe the comment that I posted on Facebook yesterday, looking back it was probably not meant for public consumption. At least on social media. A place where things can easily be interpreted the wrong  way. Where grace is not the trend of the day
After all people don’t care how much you know, until they know how much you care.
And maybe putting a stake in the ground and proclaiming this is where I stand, does not serve the cause of grace that God desires all would know.
Maybe the most important stand I can take is the one that Jesus and Craig took.
A stand that sets aside the peripheral  matters and with humility and kindness positions me to meet people where they are and show them love that will draw them to Him.
I do not have all the answers, or even full understand how this looks in real day-to-day life.
But I do understand that Jesus met me where I was.  A sinner in need of Grace, and it was that grace that drew me to Him.
Jesus help me to follow your example.


“Now at last they were beginning chapter One of the great story no one on earth has read: which goes on forever”. I love this line at the end of the Last Battle by C.S. Lewis. Everyone has a story to tell and ultimately we are all part of a greater story that someday will be revealed in full. “ For now, we can only see a dim and blurry picture of things”. ( 1 Corinthians 13:12). My story is not remarkable, although the events I have had the privilege in my life to witness have been. I grew up in the south “the land of cotton” and the old times there were definitely not forgotten. I remember where I was and what I was doing when JFK and Martin Luther King were murdered in Dallas and in Memphis. I remember the Civil Rights movement, a time of great unrest and change. I remember the dawning of the “Age of Aquarius” in the late 1960’s. It was also the dawning of my love for playing music, a love that has stayed with me throughout my life. If my life were chapters in a book one would tell of my precious bride of 20+ years who endured so much and stood beside me through the good and the bad. One would describe the blessings of being a father and a grandfather. One would tell about how despite being “the wretch” the song sings about God was able to change me, and use me to make a difference in others lives, make me a servant in His church, and surround me with friends all because of His goodness. All part of a story that has had many twists and turns. I think of the words Jimmy Buffet wrote in one of my favorite songs "As a dreamer of dreams and a travelin’ man I have chalked up many a mile Read dozens of books about heroes and crooks And I learned much from both of their styles" And so it is true for me. But in all of my travels and all I have read and experienced nothing compares to where I am headed. The place where my story here ends and the story that goes on forever begins! "" I am confident that He who began a good work in you will carry it on until completion until the day He returns". Philippians 1:6 My hope is that as we all run our race that in some small way my words will encourage and speak to you, as your story is being written. And draw you ever closer to the One who loves you. Further up and further in!
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