Making Waves

img_1457“In life you can choose to be a pebble or a boulder.”

I used to say this to my children as an illustration to how to treat people.

In a society that has become less and less civil and more bellicose, I am reminded of the importance of this sentiment.

When I was raising my young sons, it was inevitable they would come across a play-yard bully once in a while. Both of them have a strong sense of fair play. What’s right is right. What’s wrong is wrong.

And yet, it is a truth to say that difficult people will always be in our lives. In our house we call them sandpaper people, (because they can really rub you the wrong way.)

But God.

He knows this. There is nothing new under the sun. And he intimately understands the human heart which is why he sent his son, Jesus, to show us how it’s done. 

And it comes down to the golden rule, “And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them. ” Luke 6:31 

And this is how I explained it to my children – life is like a lake. The lake rises and falls and goes with the tide. When you throw yourself in to the lake as a pebble, the ripples you make move across the lake and gently kiss the shore on the other side.

Those same ripples can buoy another person, lift them up and help carry them to their destination, whether it is to just make it to the end of a difficult day or to overcome a big challenge. However, if you throw yourself into the lake like a boulder to make the loudest noise, the biggest splash and cause the greatest damage that gentle ripple will turn into a raging wave and drown others in your path. 

We are called to be cognizant of each other. If you cannot be kind, be quiet. Sometimes that’s all we can do, because the situation with the person can be so frustrating.

However, in the book of Proverbs 18:24 we were told to have a friend we must be a friend first. And though not everyone seems like a friend – I often wonder of myself too late, what would a kind word, a thoughtful effort, a discerning pause choosing not react to antagonism do for that person?

I was laughing with my husband just the other night –  it seems like most of the women that I am close with at my work started out as sandpaper people. It was just a matter of stepping back and trying to see these people with the eyes of my heart rather than the eyes of my head.   

As for me I have a natural temperament to be a boulder, not a pebble so I must preach this lesson to myself daily and pray in the meantime I don’t drown anyone :-)

Amen and amen.

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:31-32 (ESV)


About setyourpathsstraight

It is my desire to serve God and others through writing; by proclaiming His goodness, provision and character in story form. Though I was not always a follower of Jesus Christ, I have experienced life changes that can only be a result of personally meeting Him. He is not a God of religion, but of relationship. I don't have the answers to life's challenges, but I know where to find them...only in God's Word can any of us stop following crooked paths. The month of my spiritual birthday, I read Proverbs 3:5-6 and claimed it as my life verse... "Trust in the Lord in all you do, lean not on your own understanding In all your ways acknowledge Him.... and He will Set Your Paths Straight." Thank you for your visit today. Please come back again.
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1 Response to Making Waves

  1. A really good lesson for our days!

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